So last tuesday, BEM UBAYA (student executive board) held an event called
W A R K O P O L O G I
What is WARKOPOLOGI? basically, it's a discussion forum for Ubaya students initiated by ministry of resource development student (sounds cool right? in Indo "Kementerian Pengembangan Sumber Daya Mahasiswa" ). No, I'm not going to talk about that event. What I'm gonna write here is about the topic that we discussed : Redefining Happiness.
Happiness.
So abstract. Very wide. Everyone need happiness, yet everyone have their own opinion about it. My happiness is not necessarily the same with you, vice versa.
But here I will share what is happiness. (for me)
There are 3 phases of life : Past, Present, Future.
For me, HAPPINESS IS TO ENJOY THE FUTURE . without regretting the past and worrying about the future,
There are a lot of people who can't be happy because they still stuck in their past. It's not easy to forget the past, especially when it's a painful past. Try to forget the pain, not the moment.
Let me give you an illustration (well, this happened to me and probably some of you) : when you break up with your boyfriend, it feels like the end of everything. And it's so hard to move on because there are so many memories of you and him together.
It might be easier if your relationship just started for several months. But what if it had been in years? I know I know it's not easy. There are too much memories and it's impossible to forget everything so quick.
What needs to be underlined is : forget the feeling, not the moment.
To forget all the memories is impossible, except you suddenly got an amnesia. So what you need to forget is your feeling to him/her. You still remember each memory you spend with them, but when you remember about it, there's no more feeling, no more regret, no more 'love' for the person.
The past should be a lesson for us, but the past didn't have any power to reduce or to seize our happiness now. It has no power. Let see it from the positive side. For example because you broke up with your ex, you can meet your boyfriend/girlfriend now, that one day will become your husband/wife. Isn't it better to find your future husband/wife sooner? What if you spent too long in the wrong relationship?
Next, how about future. I said before without worrying about the future. But doesn't mean I suggest you not to think about it. I also have a dream.
The people around me may know that my dream is to become a future KPK leader. I'm not just dreaming, I fought and still fighting for it. Now I majored in Law, after I graduated I already planned a few things to get me closer to my dream.
But I don't worry about the future. It's okay if I don't reach my dream, there are still many things I can do for this country. I'm a human being, it's okay for me to fail.
Plan your future, but don't worry too much.
Our anxiety doesn't come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it.
once again, THE TRUE HAPPINESS (for me) IS TO ENJOY THE PRESENT.
Enjoy what you've got now.
I wake up every morning literally with a smile on my face, grateful for another day I never thought I'd see.
My house isn't fancy. I don't have a lot of money. My family has been struggled for everything we have now. But I'm grateful for God's love, my loving family, and true friends.
Sometimes when I see my self in the mirror, I feel not confident because I don't have an ideal body shape like other girls on Instagram.
I started to grumble for the whole day to the point I realized that there are many people who can't even afford a meal. In fact 25.000 peoples die each day because of hunger and poverty.
See? How we can't be grateful while we are still able to access internet reading this post?
Remember. Happiness isn't about getting what you want all the time. It's about loving what you have and being grateful for it.
Enjoy the present. Be grateful for your life, and surely happiness will follow.
Love,
Nana
