My blog's name used to be "Walking with Jesus" but now I changed it to "Positive Vibes Only". Doesn't mean that I'm not walking with Jesus anymore haha. I'm just trying to write something more general... and random I guess.
So.. tonight I'm going to write about disappointment - kekecewaan
All of you must have felt disappointed. So do I...
Few months ago, someone disappointed me. (If you are a close friend of mine, you must know the story haha). But I'm not gonna curhat here. What I'm going to write is about How to Avoid Disappointment.
dis·ap·point·ment
the feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the nonfulfillment of one's hopes or expectations
No matter how good you are, there's always some people who disappoints you.
That's life.
So from where actually disappointment comes? Yes, expectations!
"Never get to attached to anyone, it will lead to expectations and expectations always lead to disappointments."
Is it wrong to expect? Of course no. As a human being, we all have expectations.When I google the word "expectation" this Is what I got : Expectation is a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future; a belief that someone will or should achieve something.
So there's actually 2 kind of expectation. First is expectation that you can achieve by yourself (and God). and the second is expectation that need the presence of other to become a reality.
For those expectations that you can achieve by yourself (and God), u should expect big things. Like most people said, dare to dream big. This kind of expectation can also lead to disappointment. But for me, it's bearable. I can handle it.
What's unbearable is when we expect too much from someone but they disappoint us.
It hurts, isn't it ? So how to deal with our disappointment to someone? Nothing. yeah, actually nothing. We can do nothing about that. We just have to let go and wait. Time flies. And one day, you'll wake up and realized that today my disappointment has gone. Only time can heal your disappointment. Just like when I'm writing this. I realized that a few months ago, I was so devastated. But now I can write this post like nothing ever happened. FORGIVE and let go.
Why we have to deal with it when we can actually avoid it ? Yes, we can avoid disappointment.. How ?
Do not expect too much from someone. you can still expect, but not too much :))
Just focus to make yourself better. Be a better person to them (family/friends/bf/gf/anyone). Give them your kindness and sincerity, but never expect them to treat you the same way.
But trust me, life is good. When someone just makes you very disappointed that you feel like dying, that's not the end. Really, it's not the end. Everything is okay in the end, if it's not then it's not the end. That's what I feel now. When I truly forgive and let go of it, life gives me something even better than before.
and if you're reading this (someone who disappointed me - you know who you are) hahah. don't worry, I have forgiven you since the moment you disappoint me. Thanks for teaching me something about life.
Anticipate everything and expect nothing !
Love,
Nana
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